In the world full of social media, where people show their lifestyle ,some of us will be astonished and feel depress by others life style and assume ourselves as inferior or worthless. This blog is all about The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck By Mark Manson book summary.
WHAT THIS BOOK TEACH US?
This book “the subtle art of not giving a f*ck is going to answer such things mentioned in star of blog. This is not like other self help books to go for things ,think big but it teaches you to think about only priorities.
WHY NAME OF BOOK IS ”THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK”?
As the gold is gold no matter even it’s in waste, same like the book name. It is full of lessons. The name of book elaborate to care about things that matter only.
It’s written by Mark Manson back in 2016 as his first ever book. He was successful blogger where he got many views. He also owned a YouTube channel ,you can visit if you are willing.
This book consists of 9 chapters each containing a lesson. They seem confusing but here is the summary of book in detail.
THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK -MARK MENSON BOOK SUMMARY
Here is the detail summary ,review of book THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK
Mark Manson starts the book by giving example of Charles Bukowski who was a drunk and totally mess, but achieve success despite of others bad habits.
The author tells about “Backward Law”.
“Positive things brings negative experiences and negative experiences brings the positive changes”
This law describe that when we think so much even positive this brings negativity in life.
you think about money, cars it’s good but then you reach a point where you can’t get them and this overthinking of positive brings negativity thoughts and that can ruin your life .
Second past of law is negativity brings positivity means if we face negative things like problems ,once they will become positive results .
we say we fail that is negative experience now if we find out the reason and do work on it ,this gonna brings changes in life. This is the beautiful law I read in this book.
Another things I learnt from book is that be happy with what you have, pick what matter in life.
SUFFERING IS USEFUL
This chapter emphasizes that sometimes in life suffering pain can be good. Pain is of two types one is physical and other is psychological both make us strong if we focus on the reason behind them.
if we feel anger, it’s a emotional signal to our body and we react to it.
YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL
This chapter tells about self esteem and types of people who feel special.
- Those who consider them as special and others useless
- Others who consider others special and themselves as worthless.
According to author ,both type of people are just useless. Many people demand life to be fair to them but this doesn’t work in cycle.
Bad and good both are component of life.
A real good person is the one who accept both things and know how to tackle them.
VALUE OF SUFFERING
This story begins with story of Japanese soldier who begins fighting WW2 till 1973 didn’t know it was over 27 yrs ago. Writer tells us that no matter how motivated you are, how much great your goal is, you should know the reality and know the value of sacrifice.
Author there teaches us to give importance to things that are important.
YOU ARE ALWAYS CHOOSING
Life is all about making choices .Mark there gives a example .
someone impose on you to run tomorrow by pressurizing you and other scenario is you are fit and run according to your fitness. Both situations are different but writer believe we should be responsible in such situations.
if someone is ill ,it’s not his fault ,but now it’s his responsibility to go to doctor and take medicines. This chapter tells us to finding responsibility.
Further writer tells in hook don’t blame others when we fail. Our life improve when we consider ourselves as reason of fault and try to improve them, it’s where the real improvement begins .
YOU ARE WRONG
This point emphasizes on concept that our opinions can never be same, they change.
Mark gives example by saying in the start many believes earth was flat but now they believe it’s not .Their opinions changed after finding and solving problems.
Further writer says uncertainty release when we judge ourselves rather than others. This thing brings good changes and improve dialogue with others.
FAILURE IS WAY FORWARD
It’s my favorite chapter of book and it motivates many readers. Writer wants us to know that rejection brings good things in life. For example he child walks after falling many times .If we have failure in our mind, this thing leads to success as it’s the part of struggle.
The lesson from this chapter is that we should work on failure .There should be some questions:
- Why I fail?
- How I can improve my work?
- Can failure help me in getting goals?
If one work on these problems ,he probably get changes in life.
IMPORTANCE OF SAYING NO
In the book the subtle art of not giving a f*ck ,writer tells us that rejection is a part of life .Mark Manson gives his concept about a healthy relationship, is the ones where both can say no to each other.
We have to value one thing in life by sacrificing other or saying no to other thing.
if I want to become a editor ,I have to say no to many things like developer etc because I am giving f*ck about the things that I love the most rather than other stuff.
Writer believes a person who can’t say no ,he can get anything in life.
THEN YOU DIE
This is the last chapter of book .Writer wrote this and he is inspires by death of his friend who died at a party .It’s the most hurtful thing he had experienced and he gives some lessons to us.
In this chapter, writer forced us to think about our mortality. We have to question our death .
- When I am going to die?
- What will happen when I die?
- Had I wasted my life?
‘ Death is the thing that crystallizes the point of what matters in our life.
It emphasizes on the point that we should keep death in mind, as this alarm us to keep going and do things what are worthy.
LESSONS FROM “THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK”
- Thinking More
This tells us not to think more ,as we think more in life, this brings sense of unhappiness in us.
- Happiness comes by solving problems
This concept of book teaches us to solve problems to get happiness. For example most of us want to be rich, but not ready to do that struggle.
We love the end, but ain’t ready for process.
- Power of choice
This point tells us on making choices. No matter what once we had make decision, stick to that no matter what others think. Don’t give any attention to others comments.
- Change opinions
We should open our minds and ready to accept facts rather than being closed minded all the time.
- Rejection maketh us stronger
This teaches us a valuable lesson that failure leads to victory.
As we see many successful people, we want that kind of lifestyle but ain’t ready to know how they got that. We ain’t ready to find out how many times they failed. If we focus on these things, we learn the things that they failed many times and that’s what makes them stronger .
CONCLUSION ;THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK BY MARK MANSON-SUMMARY AND REVIEW
“the subtle art of not giving a f*ck”is all about giving importance to things what matters most in life. This book teaches us to not overthink as it brings discomfort in life. This book isn’t about teaching you how to gain but rather it’s about how to lose and let it go.
- This book is about you can’t change the world and please others as life is short. Further, it teaches us to give priority to relations that are worthy .I rate it 8 out of 10.
The book is in simple language ,easy to understand and author gives examples of many athlete’s, businessman’s etc. For best experience, you can read book.
What is lesson in the subtle art of not giving af?
This book teach us about the things that are important. We should care about things that are worthy. Further, author emphasizes that don’t overthink as it brings tension in life. He further says that failure lead to success if we find out the obstacles happened in our way.